Romance in the Real World
Reading lots of fiction can take its toll on living in the real world. Anyone who knows a mystery buff will tell you that they are often slightly paranoid and always looking for clues. Or a historical fiction nut might often use archaic terms that startle other, more modern readers. Same goes for romance readers. For many romance readers, this genre presents its own set of difficulties.
For instance, you might have the reader who expects the real world to be just like the books she reads. She can't understand why the man doesn't present flowers at the earliest opportunity, why the conflicts that arise are not especially sweet or romantic, and why, when she does sleep with the guy, it's not all fireworks and poetry.
Other romance readers get inspired by romance novels, but fictional acts of love don't always translate well into regular life. She might want to write little love notes for her man to find, but when they don't get found or they don't elicit the response she has read about, she is disappointed. Or, she sets up a romantic evening to fulfill some wild scene she read in a book, but he comes home wanting only dinner and peace.
On the one hand, reading romance can often keep the hope alive. You can settle into a fictional world where things work out in the end and come away from it believing that it's possible that life will work out, too. Reading scenes of star-crossed lovers can make you appreciate that your relationship doesn't have to overcome such hairy obstacles. Hot sex scenes can spark up the imagination and make a comfortable sex life catch fire.
Reading is like any other activity - you take from it what you can and leave the rest. Remembering that life is far more rich and full of texture than any book can make it easy to live in the real world.
Nicole
For instance, you might have the reader who expects the real world to be just like the books she reads. She can't understand why the man doesn't present flowers at the earliest opportunity, why the conflicts that arise are not especially sweet or romantic, and why, when she does sleep with the guy, it's not all fireworks and poetry.
Other romance readers get inspired by romance novels, but fictional acts of love don't always translate well into regular life. She might want to write little love notes for her man to find, but when they don't get found or they don't elicit the response she has read about, she is disappointed. Or, she sets up a romantic evening to fulfill some wild scene she read in a book, but he comes home wanting only dinner and peace.
On the one hand, reading romance can often keep the hope alive. You can settle into a fictional world where things work out in the end and come away from it believing that it's possible that life will work out, too. Reading scenes of star-crossed lovers can make you appreciate that your relationship doesn't have to overcome such hairy obstacles. Hot sex scenes can spark up the imagination and make a comfortable sex life catch fire.
Reading is like any other activity - you take from it what you can and leave the rest. Remembering that life is far more rich and full of texture than any book can make it easy to live in the real world.
Nicole
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